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How to Cope in Times of Stress

How do you cope in times of stress? We all tend to fall into one of two patterns during challenging times. We can go into overfunctioning, taking over and trying to do everything to feel in control and avoid difficult feelings. Or we can go into underfunctining and feel frozen and helpless.

 

To find out more about your tendencies and steps to take to function more effectively in times of stress check out my editorial on this topic with The Ace Class

When it seems like Everything is Falling Apart

It is my first week back from maternity leave. It has been refreshing to be back in the office and back to serving clients. As I was preparing to return I have been reflecting on the evolution of my practice over the last few years. 

A year ago the concept of a home office was not even in my awareness. 

Yet spaces kept falling apart despite my best efforts and intention to find a commercial office space where I could grow my practice over the long term. 

Each attempt fell apart within a year. From buildings being sold and leases abruptly ended to […]

Overcoming the Tyranny of Perfectionism

Many high-achieving women struggle with an unseen battle with their own expectations for excellence. And while there is nothing wrong with having high expectations and striving for success the danger to our success and overall well-being is when we are driven by perfectionism. 

The focus in striving for excellence is on moving towards what we want, while the focus in perfectionism is in avoiding failure or negative consequences. Perfectionism tends to lead to setting standards for ourselves that are nearly impossible to achieve or are achieved only with great difficulty and often at great personal cost. Perfectionism would have us believe […]

On Letting Go of What is Not Working

Greetings Beautiful Soul, 

You are going through a tough time right now and that is OK. Allow yourself to feel the depth of your pain. Allow the depth of your feelings to crack you open. Let it wash away everything that is not working, all that is not serving your highest good at this time anymore. Let it leave you raw and vulnerable. It is OK to not have all the answers or to know the next steps right now. Let yourself be exactly where you are. Let yourself be humbled and to stand still. 

Know that peaks and valleys are a […]

When You Need to Leave Your Relationship with a Soul Mate

There can be a lot of confusion about what it means to be in a soul mate relationship. Too many times I have seen clients remain in unhealthy or even downright abusive relationships because of a strong feeling that this person is their soul mate. 

And it may in fact be a soul mate relationship. Yet there are different perspectives about what it means to be in a soul mate relationship and it can be helpful to consider expanding your definition about the meaning of this type of relationship, especially if you are feeling trapped and miserable.

When we encounter a soul […]

How to Say No With Love (and why you need to)

 

Saying no can be a lot harder than it needs to be. Many women struggle with saying ‘yes’ when we really want to say ‘no’. Why is this?

Check out How To Say No with Love (and why you need to) for helpful tips and strategies.

Tips for Navigating the Mental Health System and Finding the Best Fit

How do I know if investing in private practice mental health support is right for me?

To help you answer this question here is a breakdown of costs and benefits of various mental health service options that may be available to you.

The following is a breakdown based on this writer’s experience within the mental health field (within the geographical area of Calgary Alberta, Canada) .The following article is not meant as a diagnosis or to say what is right for you given your individual circumstances. And it is not a substitute for seeking your own qualified medical advice. Use your own […]

4 Tips for Navigating Tough Times with Grace

Check out my Editorial with the ACE Class for the full article:

4 Tips for Navigating Tough Times with Grace 

Why I stoped setting New Years Resoultions

Personally, I made the conscious choice to stop setting New Years resolutions many years ago. It is not that I don’t believe in setting goals or making a conscious effort to be our personal best. It is just that I don’t believe that putting so much pressure on one time of year above any other time, is really all that helpful. After all, by early February you only have to look at the declining attendance at any fitness centre to see how effective those January goals often really are.

The rebound from the holidays and times of indulgence often can set […]

Read this When Reality Really Sucks

There are times in all of our lives when reality really sucks. When things do not turn out how we have hoped. The task of recognizing and accepting reality can be heart breaking.
We can cling too tightly to our dreams and best laid plans.

To our thoughts and adamant desires of how things ‘should’ be.
It might be the relationship we are hoping will get better (but it isn’t)
The toxic ‘friendship’
The abusive or bullying work environment
The sadness and isolation of relationships rifts and unhealthy patterns
The pain of addiction, (our own or those we love)
Financial stressors and times when our income does not […]